Some people like to play it rough, others like to keep the fun to a few positions. But how do you know what you like if you don’t explore? Getting out of our comfort zone is the perfect way to discover new things and have “sexual epiphanies” that will improve our experience.
So, why BDSM? There’s a lot more to BDSM than simply whips and chains. It’s a huge spectrum of different kinks that can involve pain and/or soft, gentle sensations. If you have no experience of BDSM, or you are simply curious to see what else is a part of it, you are in the right place. Even if you don’t consider yourself to be a freak in the sheets, here’s why you might want to let your kinky side out to play:
It Adds a New Level of Intimacy to Sex
There is a lot of trust involved in BDSM. There are a lot of different dynamics that can come into play, especially if you decide to pursue a sub-dom relationship. Because of the nature of BDSM, you’re inherently showing a side of yourself that few will ever get to see, and that alone makes it more intimate that your average tumble in the sheets.
It Might Allow You to Act Out Certain Fantasies
You know how you might have always wanted to be tied up? Well, actually taking the leap into the world of BSDM would allow that to happen.
It will also allow your partner to act out their fantasies, too.
You might have seen kinky videos of things that you want to try. Before jumping straight in, you should do some research. You need to know exactly what it is you want from your scene and viewing one video is not going to be enough. Online blogs like Kinky.co.uk also provide a wealth of information on the practical side of BDSM.
Increased Trust
When you are tied, either simply by the wrists or restrained more fully, you are allowing your partner to have full control over your body as well as your physical and emotional wellbeing. You trust your partner to know and understand your limits, what you like and what you don’t. From your partner’s perspective, they trust that you have confidence in them to know when to stop but also to tell them when to stop if they go too far.
There are few things more intimate than giving yourself completely and unconditionally to your partner and trusting that they will not hurt you physically or emotionally.
Better, Hotter Sex
BDSM doesn’t have to end up with sex, but it’s great if it does! For many couples, BDSM is used as a form of foreplay. While this may seem unconventional for some, it can work wonders when it comes to intercourse.
Indulging in BDSM as foreplay makes the whole experience longer and increases anticipation for what is to come. We all know what better sex leads to…
BDSM, When Done Right, Is Always Safe, Sane, and Consensual
BDSM gets a bad rap for being dangerous, but it doesn’t have to be. If you and your partner take your time to communicate, research, and lay the ground rules, there are loads of benefits to feeling liberated and in touch with your inner desires—even if that means you like a good flogging every now and then.