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Everything You Need to Know About Ball Gags

one of the regular ball gags that BDSM enthusiasts use during play

There are plenty of sex toys on the market, but if you haven’t dipped your toe into the world of BDSM, ball gags might not be on your radar yet. What exactly are they? A gag is specifically designed to muffle the submissive during BDSM play.

Although there are many different types of gags, ball gags are by far the most popular. They have featured in numerous fetish scenes and films, becoming a staple of BDSM.

Ball gags can be intimidating at first, but after trying it out many couples find it adds an exciting edge to their dom/sub play.

Why Use Ball Gags?

For the dom, a ball gag is a visual sign of dominance over the dub and will suit well into almost every BDSM scenario available to the vast imagination For the sub, gags put them right at home with the idea of being a slave or dominated. Gags also serve to limit the noise by the sub and will make for some kinky punishment if any noise is made.

With large ball gags which make the sub breath through the nose in intense moments of play, the limiting amount of air breathed in can result in more intense and prolonged orgasms.

Ball Gag Safety 101

The sub won’t be able to speak when they’re wearing a ball gag, so you will need to find a way for them to use their safeword during play.

Non-verbal safe words can involve snapping fingers, having the sub hold a bell that they can ring or honking a bicycle horn when they want the scene to end. Discuss this with your partner beforehand, and double-check that you are both aware of the sign/signal before you gag them.

Paying attention to your partner’s safety is paramount, so avoid anything that could impair your judgement, such as alcohol or drugs. The same goes for your partner – alcohol numbs the senses and could result in serious injuries. As tempting as a few drinks may seem, skip the half bottle of wine and enjoy a sober and safe session instead.

A gag obviously interferes with breathing, so you never want to leave a gagged play partner unattended. Avoid gagging your partner if they have a cold, an upset stomach, or are having difficulty breathing due to illness or an allergy.

Gags can sometimes induce vomiting because it may trigger the gag reflex, so regularly check in on your partner. If they were to still be gagged when vomiting it could be fatal.

If you’re trying a ball gag out for the first time, keep to an allotted time period. 10 to 15 minutes is usually enough and helps the sub become acquainted with the feeling of being gagged.

Jaw muscles are less resilient and can become fatigued easily. So as soon as it becomes painful, the safe signal should be used and the gag removed. As you become more experienced, you will be able to wear them for longer.

Choosing Ball Gags

There are many different types of gags to choose from. Here are the most popular and commonly found gags:

Ball Gags – a basic ball gag is a spherical shaped gag which is placed in the mouth behind the teeth and then strapped into place behind the head. We recommend: Ball Gag with Leather Strap (€26.40, kinky.ie)

Bit Gags – a cylindrical shaped gag made from rubber, leather or silicone worn similar to a horse’s cradle. Some bit gags will feature reigns for use in pony play. We recommend: Fetish Fantasy Series Silicone Bit Gag (€26.40, kinky.co.uk).

Breathable Gags – perfect for beginners, their gags are hollow and can be found in either plastic, rubber or silicone. They are lightweight, comfortable, and come with holes cut out to allow for easy breathing. We recommend: Fetish Fantasy Breathable Ball Gag (€22.96, kinky.ie)

Inflatable Gags – ball gags aren’t designed to fit everyone, so these are fully adjustable for a custom fit. These start off small and are pumped in your sub’s mouth to the desired size. We recommend: Fetish Fantasy Inflatable Ball Gag (€34.44, kinky.ie)

When using a gag – slide it in gently, giving your partner a moment to adjust before you secure the straps. If your partner complains that their jaw is aching, it means you’ll need something smaller.

Once the gag is in, it won’t make your sub completely silent, but they will be unable to talk, so you’ll need to pay extra attention to their body language to make sure they’re not in pain or distress.

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