When you hear the word fingering, you usually think about fingering your girl’s vagina, right?
While fingering her pussy is already super pleasurable, there’s actually a whole other world of pleasure to be explored nearby. Anal fingering provides super unique and satisfying sensations, along with being a great way to warm up for anal sex.
Anal play isn’t for everyone, but until you try it you won’t know. According to the National Health Statistics study, 36% of women have already tried some form of anal play. These figures suggest that women are becoming more open to the idea of anal stimulation, with one in three having already started exploring the joys of anal play.
Preparing for Anal Fingering
Even though many of us enjoying anal play, it isn’t something that couples should rush into. Communicating our preferences and worries is important and an easy way to gauge where your partner stands on the issue. If they’re not totally sold on the idea, don’t push it. Suggest watching anal porn together instead or offer to massage their lower back, thighs, and bum cheeks. If you want to make your partner feel comfortable about anal play, preparation will help ensure a smooth and pleasurable experience.
Hygiene Tips for First Time Fingering
It goes without saying that hygiene is important. It is important to shower and clean out the anus beforehand. Through washing beforehand, it reduces the risk that germs will spread, it limits unpleasant smells and tastes, and it helps dispel any fears about hygiene and cleanliness. If you want a thorough clean you can use an Anal Douche – otherwise, a thorough shower will do the job.
Because anal fingering is all about pleasure, make sure your fingernails are nice and short. File any sharp edges that could cause tears in the anus. If you’re reluctant to cut your nails, you can use a “finger condom” or latex glove.
What is The Best Lube for Anal Play?
The anus is not self-lubricating, which can lead to tiny tears, so plenty of lube is needed. Lube will reduce friction and will make the experience far more pleasurable. There’s a variety of anal lubes available that are formulated for added comfort – Kinx Anal Slix (€14.92, kinky.co.uk) is a super slick, smooth and long-lasting anal lube that’s perfect for beginners. Plan on using silicone toys in the future? Boy Butter (€11.47, kinky.co.uk) is a long-lasting water-based lube with added Vitamin E and Shea butter for added comfort.
Avoid any lube with numbing ingredients. Pain is a sign that something isn’t right, so you’ll want your partner’s pain sensors fully operational so that they are able to guide you.
Get some lubricant on your finger, all the way down to the base before you begin to penetrate. And keep your lube close to hand, too, for when you need some more.
Best Techniques for Beginners
As with most things, when you’re turned on you are more likely to enjoy the experience. Get your partner in the mood by trailing a finger between their ass cheeks or stimulate the area around the anus with your mouth, tongue, or a well-lubed finger.
When it comes to anal fingering, it is all about finding a technique that works for both you and your partner. So, we always recommend experimenting with your partner to find out what works best for you.
Here are a few anal fingering techniques to get you started:
- Push the Button: When you’re ready to enter, slowly and gently press a well-lubricated finger on their anus until your fingertip is over the opening. Bend your fingertip, so that it catches on the internal border of the external anal muscles, and gently press your fingertip into the anal muscle. Tell your partner to breathe deeply, relax, and focus on contracting and releasing the pelvic muscles.
- Check the Clock: Once you’re in you can experiment a little more. Try pressing along the outer edge of the rectum with your finger, stopping to make small circles at each hour. Communicate with your partner what you’re doing and always ask for feedback. This will help you both memorize which spots really work for them.
- Tickle, Tickle: When your finger is inside the external anal muscle, you’ll feel it as a ring around your fingertip. Don’t go further in than the first joint of your finger just yet. The trick to helping the internal muscle open up is to give it a little tickle with your finger. The pressure and speed you want are the same as if you were tickling the tip of someone’s nose. Do this for about 30 seconds. If you feel them open up, your finger will slide in. If you don’t feel that, play with other techniques and try again in a few minutes.