When it comes to role-playing, it doesn’t have to be French Maid or Cops and Robbers. What makes role-playing so attractive and exciting is that you and your partner get to be anyone you want, and as inhibitions slowly decrease you will begin discussing and exploring each other’s fantasies. Role-play could be the kinky element that’s missing from what may otherwise be a very enriching sex life – so, why not give it a go!?
It takes two to role-play…
You may have been thinking about dressing up for a while, but your partner’s not always going to be on the same wavelength. Avoid turning up at her door dressed as policeman and attempting to handcuff her to a chair – this is not the kind of surprise that is likely to get her in the mood. Instead, encourage her to talk about her fantasies and suggest living out some of them. Go into sex shops together or shopping online and let her pick out something for the two of you. Through including you both in the plan, you’ll make her feel like it was as much her idea as it was yours. It’ll also send a clear message that you are confident in the relationship and that she can openly fantasise about somebody other than you.
Remember, both of you have to be in the mood to play. If your partner had a rough day at the office, the last thing she is going to want to do is dress as a school girl and get spanked for being a “naughty girl” – there’s a time and a place for everything.
Props and toys
With all the accessories available, role-playing can get expensive. Try being creative; for example buy the handcuffs and a fake revolver, but don’t feel the need to buy the whole outfit. With just a couple of props you could be the cop who arrests her for “indecent exposure.” Handcuff her to the staircase/bed post/chair and rub her body down slowly with the gun until she’s screaming to be un-cuffed.
Role-playing suggestions
Dance Show
This can work both ways, depending on how confident you’re feeling! A private dance show doesn’t require much acting, which is perfect for those trying it for the first time. As far as props go, some sexy underwear is always fun (guys, no leopard G-string – nobody likes them) and potentially some notes to stuff in her/your underwear.
The fun part is that you can laugh and have a good time, without having to take it too seriously. Turn the music up loud enough so that you can’t hear each other talk, this does two things; it reduces the likelihood of you both chatting and kidding around (which may destroy the kinky intentions), and cutting out all dialogue reduces the embarrassment for many beginners. Basically, it will keep things sexy, fun and exciting!
Lingerie Photographer
You’re a lingerie photographer on a shoot with a top model, and you’ve been given the task of getting some of the sexiest shots possible. First of all, you both need to discuss whether you use a real camera or not. Some of us may feel nervous having actual pictures taken, and more nervous at the thought of the pictures getting into the wrong hands. You could always use a real camera (for the sake of authenticity) and then delete the pictures after viewing them together afterwards. It’s all a matter of preference.
During the shoot, provide prompts and suggest poses that you’d like her to make. That way, there’s less pressure on you partner to continually come up with sexy poses. Encourage her every step of the way to help her feel at ease, and have props to hand in case she feels the need to cover certain areas of her body or simply wants the comfort of having other objects in the picture. Let your imagination run wild!
Teacher Pupil
This won’t be everyone’s cup of tea, but mini-skirts and spanking can be very sexy. As with ‘Dance Show’, the roles are easily reversible. If your partner likes to be in control, she can be a disciplinarian head mistress who needs to punish the “naughty” school boy for his bad behaviour. If you want to turn it up a notch, she could make you write down and repeat those dirty sentences you were caught saying. Spanking is optional, but always fun!
The more traditional option is the mini skirted school girl who has been sent to the head master after refusing to conform to school dress policy. The head master is likely to lay the pupil over his knee and dish out some form of pleasurable discipline –how kinky it gets is up to you. You have to be confident to try this particular scenario, and I usually suggest building up to it with some of the other less ‘acting’ types of role-play first.
Role-playing isn’t simply about being someone else for an evening; it helps both of you divulge preferences that you may otherwise not reveal and allow you both to explore what you do and do not like. Enjoy!